The Hidden Fear Behind Letting a Man Financially Provide for You
📓 Assignment:
Pick a small, essential household item that needs replacing or upgrading. Make sure it’s something simple and affordable that your husband could easily cover. Think: a dish drying rack, a new ladle, a bathroom mat or extra food containers.
Now go through this checklist with a resounding Yes or Nope:
☑️ Did I feel the need to ‘justify’ the request even though it’s reasonable?
🧍♀️ Did I instinctively think, “I’ll just get it myself” even if he wouldn’t mind providing it?
😬 Did I feel awkward or guilty for wanting something that isn’t an emergency?
🤷♀️ Did I downplay it, delay it or talk myself out of it before even mentioning it?
🛡️ Did I feel safer staying self-reliant than risking the vulnerability of receiving?
If you said yes to most of these, you’re not alone.
Many women today carry emotional conditioning that makes asking, receiving or depending on a man feel threatening, even over a cute dish towel (kidding…sort of).
That’s the trained modern ‘alpha female’ in us: the one that says we need to stay strong, be independent, keep control and never ask for anything…even when we really want to.
So here’s a reflective question to sit with:
Do you feel more powerful when you’re providing for yourself or when you’re being provided for? Why do you think that is?
📖 Feel free to submit your response only when you’re done tiptoeing around it and ready to say the quiet part out loud.